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Is the relationship really worth it?

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Read/ saw some important lessons on relationship and intimacy.. a presentation by Elizabeth Gilbert , author of Eat, Pray, Love.  Really worth a deep contemplation! The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share their heat during cold weather. However, once accomplished, they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp quills. They must step away from one another. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur for reasons which they cannot avoid. Both Schopenhauer and Freud have used this situation to describe what they feel is the state an individual will find themselves in relation to others. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and

How Will You Measure Your Life?

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How Will You Measure Your Life? A wonderful work I found on HBR... and the forum that it created.. I'm still in the awe of these wonderful people around! Thank you  Clayton  for reminding us in such a brilliant and clear way that life is multidimensional; and for bringing sense to it. It is easier to hold on to your principles a 100 percent of the time; but whether or not THAT is the right/better thing to do - must be subject to the scrutiny of your very principle.  After all, its our moral frigidity that creates conflict, prevents co-existence and tolerance and brews superiority and judgement. The choice and successful pursuit of a profession is but one tool for achieving your purpose. But without a purpose, life can become hollow. Ironically, a man realizes the true meaning of his life only after the stark realization of its transcience. If more people follow the path of their heart rather than the crowd mentality of commercial success, the world would be different. Of

Highway of Emotional Involvements

I had this lesson learnt very early in my lyf to put-in the highest possible efforts to things that is aimed for! Today, I’ve realized that there exists a flip side to this theory. I have always believed in giving-out my best; in totality, to THINGS that I want in my lyf. THINGS never retorted to say if they ever wanted me.. thus being such a focused and comfortable ride, agony was pleasure too, because it was self induced!!   J   J   J But how have things changed when the same approach I tried using for the emotional involvements with PEOPLE. Even at the deepest level of emotional involvements, a valid and equally important consideration remains; that of the reaction received, ..and that severely affects the interpersonal affairs. May be that’s why chemistry comes in picture. There has to be a reaction.. and it decides the outcome!! It has to be rightly sighted and righteously accepted.. I am grateful to have experienced this and can proudly say, now, that there is

who said humanity

Read a quote shared by my dear sir, Brigadier Naidu “It is a little embarrassing that, after 45 years of research and study, the best advice I can give to people is to be a little kinder to each other” - Aldous Huxley I am just curious if any one ever asked Mr. Huxley on how being kind and accepting can lead to a state of infliction! These kind of people are considered rare or rather extinct species and it is a general knowledge that whoever enacts such is a dumb and fool or may be far more dangerous. The mad Race that we are all in.. thr always remains a danger of meeting with accidents due to slightest of deviations.. The world has becm like dis whr distrust takes over any other form of humanitarian traits.  We are told from the childhood how important it's to mark oneself always ahead of the crowd. ...but When you are always ahead, you are also alone. How can kindness be shared in such a situation? I'm not sure if the cynic in me is taking over...! But I'm sure dis

Many things, called LOVE!

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Refer dictionary and you shall get the meanings like "a strong affection," "an unselfish, loyal and benevolent concern for others," and " to feel a passion or tenderness." Practically, LOVE represents a million varied feelings while visiting personal opinions and expressions of  people. That truly recounts that one’s personal opinion about love is it's most complicated a FEELING and goes much deeper than any other such thing. Traditionally, To love is to give up everything for another’s happiness. So says the high-esteemed narratives on love-tales of eternal lovers  world over. Even in India, we have quite a few stories of selfless and devotional love not only of Radha-Krishna but a lot other mortal stories Though, a pragmatic approach (as per my own feelings and observations..) is not to be just plane-irrational with state of affairs as it never culminates with the desired end. Likewise, it all operates in Love.  The more you try to give//like